Gloria's Rough Patch Smooths Out

On one of my old blogs, I would write about my friends' love lives. I still think they're lives are pretty interesting, so I'll write about them on this new blog occasionally as things develop.

This post is about my friend Gloria. You should click the links in the previous sentence to read her posts in my old blog.

To sum it up for you lazier readers (I'm not judging), Gloria is my girl who has an interesting love life. The main players are two men, who I call Rufus and Gregory in my blogs. Rufus is the father of Gloria's son. He's an asshole. And he's possibly crazy. The best way to sum up what makes him crazy is to tell a short story.

He has another son who was 1 years old at Gloria's son's second birthday party. I'll wait while you do the math. Yeah, he knocked up two chicks back to back. And while the mother of his seond son was still living with him, and pregnant, he's telling Gloria that they need to be a family and together. He's still telling her that he wants to be with her and his son and make a family unit. I question not only his sanity but also his intelligence.

Then there's Gregory. Gregory is lovely. He's a sweetheart and definitely my favorite of my friends' significant others. He also has a son, but he has considerably less baby mama drama. He and Gloria have been together slightly longer than Easy and I have. They make a fabulous couple. They are so sweet together, and if they could just get over their competitive streak, everything would be fine.

They hit a rough patch recently because Gloria was feeling like a very low priority on Gregory's list of importance in life. I was worried they were going to break up and I begged her to reconsider. She really loves that man, so she didn't need me to tell her to keep her relationship. I did give her a suggestion of a more productive and constructive way to have what-do-we-do-now-that-we've-hit-a-wall discussions.

They're still together, and she seems happier when his name comes up now than she did a couple weeks ago. Even if you work on your problems as a couple, you'll never be perfect, but when you love someone and the relationship is healthy, you keep making it work.

I'm trying to be very supportive because I am campaigning to be godmother for their first child together. I'd make a great godmother! I bake cookies and I take field trips to museums, and I throw a mean slumber party. I'm just saying.

When Gloria was with Easy and I last weekend, we really had a great time. Any time someone is out with a couple and isn't even a bit bitter, that's a good sign.

Now if we can only get Gregory to have some free time, we'd love to go on a double date with them. Gregory is kind of quiet, but Easy had him talking. He brings out the extrovert in everyone. And Gregory is hilarious, so I know it would be a good time.

How's Your Life? Mine's Awesome

I'm feeling pretty awesome today. Have you ever heard of the term D.I.N.K.?

I'd never heard of it before a couple weeks ago. Easy's mother introduced us to the term.

It means Double Income, No Kids. It is pretty nice to live this life where our only responsibility is making sure each other is as happy as possible.

We go to work-- and luckily we both love our jobs-- then we come home and we pretend to be nesting.

We're not actually nesting. Our house is still incredibly unsettled. It's the product of a busy schedule and an odd set of priorities. But Easy and I are incredibly happy almost all the time. It feels like a dream, but still also very realistic.

The last couple days have not felt like a typical weekend. We actually had time to just live life. I love that man because I told him all of five days ago that I wanted to do something with our time that didn't include a restaurant, my parents' house, his parents' house, or live jazz music.

And he made it happen in just a couple days. Friday, I hung out with my girl, Gloria, who I wrote about in one of my old blogs. We went shopping. Women be shopping! I got two pairs of shoes for me, two pairs for Easy, a great new dress, a new scarf, and the piece de resistance was this:

Image via Express Online

 I saw a belted cape coat somewhere online and I fell in love. I dragged poor Gloria into every store on Michigan Avenue looking for one! I returned the favor by being dragged into every store in Water Tower Place after that to find her the perfect boots. It was a very successful day.

Then, we went to go see The Lion King in 3D. I love Disney (with their parent-killing, stereotype reinforcing asses), and so I was super excited to have the chance to go see that movie. 

Some people were in that theater reacting to the movie like they'd never seen it. And this was not 10 years old and under kids, this was mostly grown-ups falling out over the floor laughing when the hyena voiced by Whoopi Goldberg says, "Make mine a cub sandwich!" Easy, Gloria, and I were in there shaking our heads.

I understand that everyone else isn't as big a Disney fan as me and they aren't at home watching the Special Edition DVD once a a month, but come up on people. It hasn't been that long, has it?

Saturday, we hung out at home for most of the day. There was listening to music and dancing. We break into dance a lot. And I cooked dinner for Easy to eat right then and for me to take to work. Pork chops, collard greens, rice, and corn bread. Delish!

Just like that picture at the top, this weekend was a great blend of a good number of all the components of my personal life I like to juggle. I look forward to the next time I'll be able to do this, which is... probably at least 2 months away.